I know that apparently *most* of the couples of who got married in the USA last year, met through e-harmony. I also know people who met via online dating and have since married and are very happy.
I’m just not sure that online dating is the solution which it purports to be.
In fact I think it’s snake oil.
On paper online dating looks pretty good, right? I’m very busy, I don’t really meet people, all my friends are coupled up - blah, blah blah (incidentally I’m quoting myself here). Also, it’s quite fun searching through the profiles with your mates, especially if you’ve had some wine.
Unfortunately, when you wake up the next morning, it’s, well not quite as fun… and actually it sucks.
You spend an hour or so trawling through boring profiles, trying to remember how fun it was the night before. You figure you really *ought* to make contact with some people.
So you do. You try to find a commonality between the two of you. You try to be witty, engaging, fun, lively, bubbly, intelligent etc.
Language fails you.
You decide to go shower, because you figure it’s just the hangover. You come back, look at a few more profiles and decide that you really need coffee. You drink coffee, come back…
BUT
it’s not the hangover, it’s not the coffee,
you’ve
just
lost
the
will
to
live
It’s no fun at all. It’s soul destroying.
You start looking at some girls profiles because you’ve not tortured yourself enough just yet. Everyone else, looks younger, fresher, more fun, more appealing. You realise that you are old, fat and don’t photograph very well.
You eat some toast (because hangovers need carbs) and curse the joining fee which you could have spent on shoes (or more sensibly your council tax).
Maybe it’s just that particular dating site?
… Damn those salesmen are good 
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on Oct 2nd, 2009 at 2:45 pm
HANNAH! No no no no no . This is all the wrong approach! First off, eharmony is a no no! PAYING to talk to people is like asking mannequins to be your friends. *brief flashback from senior year* What you need to do is join a free (with pay optional) site, and THEY can pay to talk to YOU! (trust me, they will).
Online dating takes a while to get used to, and some people find after a while that it’s just not the right approach for them.
on Oct 2nd, 2009 at 2:59 pm
I so agree with Blondie. Before I met hubby I was seeing a guy I met on a dating site, he was lovely, and well off, but I was just seeing hime for fun, and if I hadn’t been seeing him I wouldn’t have felt secure enough to chase hubby the way I did (because you can flirt risk free when your seeing someone, right?)
So internet dating is inadvertantly responsable for my marriage, but you have to treat it like the nonsense it really is for it to work.
on Oct 2nd, 2009 at 5:09 pm
@Blondie - Like asking mannequins to be your friends? Well it worked for Andrew McCarthy & Kim Cattrall.
@Yoshimi - ‘treat it like the nonsense it really is for it to work’ - now that, my love is gold… it may even be my new mantra.
on Oct 2nd, 2009 at 8:19 pm
haha, I guess it worked for Today’s Special as well.